What do I do with my life?

What-Do-I-Do-With-my-LifeI felt like I was giving away a dirty little secret. Like I had some sort of inside scoop that people were anxiously waiting to hear.

Last Friday, Regina Tay and I, as a preview to our Envisioned Life workshop, facilitated an open discussion around the question: How does a Christian know God’s will for their life?

Twenty curious people showed up, ready to discover the answer.

I polled the room, asking who was currently facing a major life decision.

Half the people raised their hands, indicating that life direction, greater purpose and the desire to do the right thing with their precious life was an important issue to address.

People were dealing with career transitions, decisions on where to move, and whether or not to stick with stability or step out in faith.

It is the age-old question: What do I do with my life?

As if I knew the answers. I wanted to tell them. I really did. Every ounce of me just wanted to declare: Yes! Open your dream business! Apply for that big work promotion! Don’t listen to the critics, pursue your passions!

But that’s not really helpful.

Because the question, What do I do, puts the emphasis on the do—the actions, the labor, the work. And you are so much more than what you do.

Instead, the next time you’re facing a life decision, I challenge you to ask: Who am I becoming?

This question emphasizes who I am, and that means everything.

Who am I becoming... …when I'm opening a creative arts school for kids? Innovative? Passionate? Influential?

Who am I becoming... …when I move close to my family? Caring? Appreciative? Responsible?

Who am I becoming... …when I am at my best? Empowering? Adventurous? Authentic?

Ok, I think you get it.

The key here is to take the surface details of the choices of the decision and go deeper to uncover the core values that align with your specific design, unique gifts, and personal wiring.

A career move could really be choosing between stability and pioneering. A choice between going back to work or being a stay at home mom could really be choosing between security and family.

Consider who you are, and who you are becoming.

Get clear on the kind of person you want to be.

Then do whatever it takes to become it.

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IMG_1607PS: Discovering your core values is a life long process! If you would like help from the pros, come to the Destiny Discovery Quest workshop on April 11-13. We will help you dream BIG, get unstuck, and discover your core values to understand who you were created to be.