The Difference Between Failure and Feedback

failure-and-feedback It’s a common excuse people use to stay complacent. It’s what makes us want to crawl into bed to save us from dying of embarrassment. It’s the 4-letter F word that we don’t like to talk about: FAIL.

Failure is apart of life, but a part we would like to avoid, if we can. Failure is disappointing, negative, and ground us from reaching our dreams. But what if we could think about failure differently in a way that is helpful? What if we can find the gold in a pile of fail? We can, by turning soul-crushing failure into opportunity-finding feedback.

The key is: the way we approach a situation will determine how easy or difficult it is to learn from it.


  • I did something wrong. What is wrong?
  • Someone is to blame.
  • Let’s never try again.
  • Why did that happen?


  • I made a mistake. Lets take another look at my outcome.
  • What can I learn?
  • Let’s retrace the steps to see how this happened.
  • What opportunity can we create from this?

The next time you’re faced with a situation which you would have liked to handle differently, check your thoughts and emotions against these framework. Are you approaching in terms of failure or feedback?

Then, ask yourself the following questions:

  • What went well?
  • What could have been even better?
  • What is a positive takeaway lesson you can apply to future situations?

REMEMBER: The tone of FAILURE is negative and limiting while the heart of FEEDBACK is opportunity and growth.

What do you think? Share your thoughts or other go-to feedback questions in the comments box below.





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