It seems like lately whenever I ask someone how they're doing, their go-to response is "I'm BUSY!" Busyness is fine, but if you're not careful, it can easily turn into overwhelm. Too many things to do, too many choices, or too many things that are out of your control can quickly lead to feeling like you want to call it quits and binge on Netflix. What people really want is a sense of work/life balance. When we get to the heart of it, we want the sense of ease of living a well-integrated life. Today, I wanted to chat about “work/life balance” and dispel the myth of “having it all.” Instead, let’s take a look at it differently in a modern day world context and also learn a few tips to (actually) help you find the balance you’re seeking.
Tip #1: Get Clear On Your Definition
Whenever a friend a client says they want work/life balance, I challenge them to get clear on what that really means to them. Because it’s hard to create what we want until we know exactly what is is we’re trying to do. For some people, work/life balance means killing it at work so they can come home and relax with family. Other people, it means being true to themselves in all spheres of life. Or, it could mean facing an upcoming transition with intention. I’m a firm believer that there’s no such thing as “having it all” and instead choose to blend my time and energy between things that matter to me: family, work, and self-care.
What does work/life balance really mean to you? In order to thrive at work, what do you need to focus on? Who can help or support you to do that? What’s something in your life that you want to create, or let go? How do you want to incorporate self-care into your routine? Getting clear on what work/life balance really means to you will help you know the parameters of trying to cultivate it.
Tip #2: Pick Your Priorities
Since we have limited time and energy, we can choose to focus on a few things in our lives that make the most impact. That’s when picking our priorities help us to identify what’s most important to us to invest time and energy in order to get to where we want to go. For example, if you’re a new business owner, a priority would be to build your foundations, grow a client base, and set up systems. If you’re a new mom, taking care of your baby will probably trump seeing a movie with your gal pals. It’s important to remember that your life is seasonal, so pick your priorities for the next 3 months will help you better make daily decisions and give you boundaries of what to say “yes” to and what to say “no” to.
Tip #3: Give Yourself Some Grace
When you’re busy and overwhelmed, the LEAST HELPFUL thing to do is to beat yourself up over it. Instead, extend yourself some grace in knowing that you’re doing the best you can. If it helps, chat with a trusted friend or coach, find things and people you are grateful for, and name all of the small wins and progress you’re making. These are a few ways to get out of your head and focus on the things that truly matter.
Work/life balance is a lofty goal. Instead, let’s choose to pursue a well-integrated life where we can enjoy the different aspects of it, in whatever season we’re in.
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I'd love to hear from you! What are some ways you create work/life balance in your life? Do you believe you can "have it all?" Leave your comments in the box below!