Every week, I chat with creatives, coaches, and leaders about their goals, dreams, and what’s next in their lives. Although these conversations are amped with excitement about plans in the works, they are typically shadowed by a sense of anxiety or self-doubt caused by the gap between where they are now and where they want to be.
Oh, my friend, the struggle is real.
Success is a noble goal. Success is the direct result of your time, energy, and efforts. I’m a firm believer in defining what success is to you — what it looks like, what it feels like, who you are becoming in the process, and who you impact as a result.
But today, I wanted to show you that success isn’t a lofty goal for you to obtain in the future. When we focus too much on chasing the next big thing, we miss out on what’s right in front of us. Instead, I would like to share with you 3 simple mindset shifts to make you realize that you are already successful, today.
Mindset Shift #1: Focus on Your Journey, Not Someone Else's
>> Turn “I need to do what they’re doing” into “I am creating my own path towards success"
Comparison and competition is prevalent in any creative endeavor, and giving way to them is the quickest way to steal your joy and prevent you from doing authentic work.
Like I mentioned before, take the time to define what success means to you. That way you’re honed in on what you are working towards and connected to a compelling reason/purpose. Think about your unique gifts, what makes you come alive, and how you would solve a particular problem.
As you continue on your journey, recognize and celebrating your wins on a regular basis. By celebrating new accomplishments, you'll pinpoint the small steps you’re taking, create motivation and momentum to keep going, and check in on your progress. Success is available to us, now, if we define it and live it on our own terms.
Try it! Ask yourself: What is a recent win I accomplished? What are some milestones I reached to lay the foundation for further success?
For example, you could say:
- I have lost 2 llbs. and am eating less sugar.
- I booked 3 new clients in the past few weeks.
Simple as that, you’ve already found two reasons why you are already successful.
“Never compare your beginnings to someone else’s middle. Comparison is poison.
- Jon Acuff, Author of Do-Over
Mindset Shift #2: Recognize Your Growth
>> Turn “I’m not there yet." into “I am better now than I was a year ago."
We can either have a fixed mindset or a growth mindset. A fixed mindset refers to the belief that our abilities and gifts are limited and set in stone. A growth mindset refers to the belief that our abilities and gifts can grow exponentially through persistence, hard work, and development.
By engaging in our own growth, we recognize our efforts to better ourselves and our situations by learning new information, skills, or habits, and from learning from our mistakes. Success is a huge learning process — we can do more of what works, and stop doing what doesn’t.
Try it! Ask yourself: What is a lesson I recently learned? Why am I better today than I was a year ago?
- I learned the ins and outs of how to write a guest post and sent my first submission.
- I realized I don’t like being in a high-pressure sales situation. Instead, I will focus on building trust and educating a client so they can make the best decisions for themselves.
“People (with a growth mindset) believe that their most basic abilities can be developed through dedication and hard work—brains and talent are just the starting point. This view creates a love of learning and a resilience that is essential for great accomplishment.
- Carol Dweck, Stanford University psychologist, Author of Mindsets
Mindset #3: Cultivate Joy & Gratitude
>> Turn “I am frustrated" into “I am grateful."
Life is messy and things don’t always go according to plan. Instead of focusing on what we don’t have, we can focus on what we do have. This shift takes effort and courage to recognize things we may take for granted.
Success can mean tangible things like buying your dream house, and it can also mean intangible things like a sense of accomplishment after completing a 30-day yoga challenge, or finally resting on vacation with your best friends.
Try it! Ask yourself: What am I grateful for today? What is something I will miss if it was gone tomorrow?
A couple of examples are:
- I eat dinner with my family every night.
- I have the opportunity to create work I believe in.
"I don't have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness - it's right in front of me if I'm paying attention and practicing gratitude.”
- Brene Brown, researcher and author of Daring Greatly
Success, in my opinion, is living an authentic life, growing into our potential, and cultivating gratitude for where we are.
What does it mean to you? How will you know you have it? Post your replies and comments in the box below, and share this post on social media if you found it helpful!