I wanted to quit my business.
A few months after my daughter was born, I was struggling with the demands of nurturing a newborn and growing a coaching business. I wanted to devote my heart, time, and energy into my passions: to develop a relationship with my daughter and to help my clients grow their confidence and their business.
The problem was, I was trying to do the SAME amount of work on my business as I did BEFORE the baby while adding the motherhood learning curve of breastfeeding, sleep training, and bonding with my child on top of it. No wonder I wanted to throw in the towel on the whole business thing. I had to do a reality check and redefine my priorities according the this new season of life I found myself in. Once I realized that during this short time, I wanted to GROW a foundation for my family first while maintaining my momentum for my business, that gave me the permission to create a business and life that worked for me.
So I wanted to share with you a simple and powerful exercise to help you figure out your priorities for this season of life and business. In a world where your roles, responsibilities, and demands are constantly changing, it’s helpful to set intentions in how you want to focus your precious time and energy. Maybe you find yourself trying to balance a baby and a business like me, or maybe you’re feeling led to put your health first, or figure out how to become financially free. Wherever you are, know that you don’t have to do it all, or do it all right now. Getting clear on your priorities, in terms of figuring out what you want to CHANGE to grow will help you feel more focused and less stressed.
(btw -- if you’d like a full goal-setting guide with a similar exercise, I highly recommend using Power Sheets to help you evaluate how you’re doing!)
1. Evaluate how you’re doing in each of the life categories on a scale from 1-10.
(1 is “rock bottom, something has to change drastically and NOW!, 10 is I’m content and this is awesome!) No need to overthink it, and your scale is personal to you, but this can help you determine how you’re *really* doing in each area.
* Note: you can edit or add to these life categories as you see fit! For example, you may have a day job AND a business, so you’ll want to separate those.
2. Next, jot down what comes to mind for you in each of these areas and ideas of how you’d like to improve.
The purpose of this is to capture how you’re doing in each area so you can get a better sense of your life as a whole.
For example, under “health” could look like:
* I’d like to eat less sugar and move my body more.
* Going to yoga on Fridays has been really enjoyable.
Again, we’re just capturing details so it’s better just to be honest!
3. Pick 3 areas of your life to focus on as your PRIORITIES! Ask yourself: which 3 areas would I like to focus my energy on CHANGING?
I like to use the “ABC” method and assign each category a letter according to priority.
“A” priority means I want to focus my energy on CHANGING this area, by cultivating a new habit, learning new tools, letting go of things that don’t serve me, and growing!
“B” priority means if I have time available, I can do something to change this
“C” priority means I can maintain this area and be okay! Having “C” priorities recognizes that you have a finite amount of time, energy, and resources, and it’s OK not to do everything! Plus, you probably have areas of your life that’s going well so it’s okay maintain what you’re doing.
4. Get clear on “How” you’ll work on your priorities.
What are the first steps you want to take to get started on your goals?
How will you keep yourself accountable to keep these priorities?
What can you schedule into your calendar so you know WHEN you’ll do these things?
Here’s where change starts to happen so it’s important to be clear on your intentions and make room in your schedule for it!
Once you have clarity on what you’d like to focus on FOR THIS SEASON of your life and business (I like to do this exercise annually, and tweak it if necessary every 3 months), you’ll have the permission to NOT do it all. Instead, you can focus on a few key areas that will make a BIG impact on your life.